Friday, July 29, 2011

Maybe it's when I allow everything to fall apart, I realize who cares and who doesn't.

Friend often share likes and dislikes, interests and passion. Beyond that, a genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop and a hope to each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendship is, doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return, sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism. Many people would say " Hey, he/she is my best friend. " yet they never take times to spend with the "best friend". Friendship takes time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories and time to invest in each other's growth. Trust is essential to true the friendship, we all need someone with whom we can share our lives, feelings, thoughts and frustration. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying those secret will be end up with hot topic of peoples in school the next day. Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a relationship in a hurry. In a true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts , no turning away. Real friends encourage on another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. A true friend is supportive of you and your goals, they will know what makes you tick and help you to become the person you want to be, they won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that makes you uncomfortable or put you at risk of  losing something that matters to you. They are fairly good listener and notices how little, day to day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but they can usually tell when you are happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they are concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you are in trouble. A true friend stick with you in good times and bad, accepts you for who you are, even when you are being a butt head. They are patient with you when you make mistakes, even big ones, and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you would like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.

71 days in love 

Monday, July 11, 2011

Don't ever depend on someone else, or you will always be disappointed.

“My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 3 and a half years now. Her parents always had a problem with me and she knew that I was not that rich from the time we started going out. For three years she told that if a problem was to arise, she would remain with me no matter what. Out of the blue she tells me a week back that she needs a break and now she tells me that this can’t go on any further and started acting like a girl I do not know. I loved her so much and you wouldn’t believe the love we had for each other. I worked after coming back from the university and saved money so that we can have a extravagant engagement party. However, her mom always wanted someone really rich and one who already has everything. Life with me would be uncertain for her future and she is now confused about what to do. I tried everything to convince her to stay with me, but in vain. My parents are fine with her, but it is her parents that is the problem. Now we are not talking for over a week. We used to share cars while going to the uni and even eat food together. Now we don’t even do that. She stares at me in the classroom, and does not mix with friends but cries alone. However, when I go near her, she becomes stern and tells me to forget her. I feel so helpless. Even her relatives are involving themselves in our relationship. Please tell me what to do. I’m devastated. Should I forget her?
Why will these problems often occurs in our life? Hello? The mother or daughter would be the one who carry the man's hand till old with white hairs in the future? Who would be the one who stay with him and walk through the rest of his life? Why must her sacrifice their love just for her mom, who would eventually accept the fact? Nevertheless, there is nothing to do to change her family's perspective. Reality affected the truth and the truth is.. love couldn't conquer all. Would you marry a guy because his parents is rich? It sounds tempting to some of you but sounds poor to me. Perhaps some of you might say "Oh yes. This will be in my consideration." How stupid you are, if you have a mind of thoughts like this. That's his parents' money, not his money. Will his parents give the money to you unreasonably? They will. But just to their son, under their sons' name, never under daughter-in-laws' name. Who will be such an idiot to put their properties under a strangers' name? To them, sons' wife are still outsider. Why don't you choose to marry a guy which is rich of self-made-money?  Why don't you have your own high education with credential? What I meant is, career woman. You don't need to rely on mans. You use your own money, spend your own money. And If you get into a divorcement, you can never expect for alimony. 

53 days in love ♥