Thursday, March 31, 2011

Ms Miao

There is always someone who named Ms Miao once in your life time, who used to be a fighter, to compare with you. Who used to deliberate every single part of you, as a topic with dearing. Who used to get angry with every nonsense of you, blame him/herself that do not enough perfect to challenge. Just for a winner and loser. Perhap anyone of you are my Ms Miao, and maybe I am others' too? I meant perhaps. 

I found out there's someone, who likes to compare with me. The someone who is having high self-confidence. In my previous posts, I mentioned I alway having less self-confidence. That's why I always appreciate him/her.  The someone, likes to compare whatever your things. The someone that maybe him/her do not copy and paste intentionally. I am not against whom, and also do not contain any offence. I just want to tell the someone, nothing to compare, nothing to fight, nothing to get angry, just to be ourselves.

I dislike to be compared. But I alway like to see and search for pretty girl. I love beauty. Type of feeling of admiration. I can't stop looking at pretty when I aimed them. They are too fascinating and tempting. I like Angela Baby. She is too perfect in every single way she does. I love natural beauty. I love sexy girl. I love charming girl. I love ethos girl. I love hybrids. Their perfect blood that are flowing, perfect skin, perfect eyes, perfect nose, perfect mouth, perfect fingers and every perfection. I want a V-shaped chin, I want to have perfect feature. Feeling so bad that I don't have all of these. Why don't mummy birth me to be a beauty as Angela? A huge and long lasting sigh again :(

Honey Friendship Week

Hello, I am here to blog again. Still a friendship post. A big sigh for our broken friendship, vulnerable friendship. I should confess I am having less self-confidence. I do not have courage to face it, dare not to speak the problem. As she said, " 她没有发言权 " Alright, I agree with you. I am not angry for this little stuff. Because I knew, it was the truth. I think you shall know the main reason, why were us mad at you. Firstly, I want to complain something, about your friend. We don't have qualification to control you of making friends with other, and that's a common. But our friendship problems were only related with you, me, and both of them. Are they having qualification to speak on something about our friendship? I meant, they are outsiders, I meant your new friends. They are just outsiders in case, for us. But why did them spoke so loud and feels like so-so understanding you? After friending with you for about three years, why don't I know? Don't say us heartless, we do really care about this friendship, we tried to retain but failed. I am sorry for the ignorance, and I know you were feeling bad. I had been this, I understood. I am type of person who used to be poor in communication. I am sorry for your disappointment? I want to tell you something that hiden. After three years of friending, you told us your feeling, you felt you were happy all day long with them. We asked, " In this three years, don't you feel happy before? " Your answer were really surprised me and disappointed us. You said your happiness were just outlooking, but not the fact. I guess you were too conflict to say this. Try to think, if you were unhappy, but why you answered us you were feeling better to join with them? Ain't your words too conflict? Still, you were too wrong for saying our friend like this, you knew its sound bad, what would others think of if they heard? And you were saying in front of your new friend, how would them think of us? I am not trying to blame on you or whatever, I just want to tell you my feeling. I want to solve this problem, we are trying. But too small to be if there is only my heart. Seems like we were just spreading out the problem and do not solve it.  The last, if you really want to join with your new friend, you feel joy to be with them, I meant IF. Then we'll set you free, and let you go. Do not contain any offences. Cheers always :)

Love yourself more than others! 

Today was the last day of  March. Tomorrow is April in order. And what we used to call the first day of April? It's April's Fool! It's the day that we used to fool our friends, families or whoever dearing. The earlier wishes for Happy April Fool. I wished for my education, my friendship, my love. Happy Birthday to my honey friend, Kee Zi Kuan. Enjoy your days and stop saying my bad! Hmmm, wishing you have your partner, your love as soon as possible!

Monday, March 28, 2011

Broken Friendship. Don't let things to built up before you explode.

Things do not get right in this recently. I am just like so fail, failure. Neither friendship nor love, I am always the failure. You chose your friend, you chose to be with them. In a way, it makes your bond more meaningful because it was cultivated purposefully. The time and effort that goes into creating a friendship is hard to go through again. Let's face it, no one is perfect. Everyone gets into fights with a friend from time to time. It's completely natural, and a very common problem. No matter how hard you try, or how loving or respectful of a couple you are,you are bound to get into a disagreement once in a while.  It can be very hard losing a friend. They are the ones we trust all of our secrets. They are who we turn to when we need help, and we do the same. Life is too short and too long to carry drama over your friendship. It's just not worth the problem it creates. Peoples make mistakes, and as long as they are a good person, they deserve a second chance.

I know it might sound cliche or that you might think that you're the one that deserves an apology. But the truth is that if you don't want to waste a lot of time and emotion then your best bet is to apologize. Even if  it is not your fault, apology is an effective strategi. For the most part,  every fight has some right or wrong on both sides. Apologizing is a key to rebuilding your friendship. It works because when someone has done something nice to them, they feel an immediate need to return the favor. That mean they'll soften up and likely apologize.

Ways to handle.
1. Give your partner enough space to voice his or her concerns.
I'm sure you hate it when people interrupt you, give your partner the same respect, even if you don't agree with what they are saying.

2. Make an extra effort to really understand what you partner is trying to say.
It is very easy to fall into the trap of thinking you know what they are saying, when in fact you may not have a clue. If your partner feels like you understand what they are saying, you'll find a way to end the argument far more quickly.

3. Don't say something you'll regret later.
Always consider your relationship like a glass. It is sturdy, tough, beautiful and clear when taken care of, but if it is mistreated or mishandled it can end up scratched, cracked or even broken. Take care in choosing the words you say when you are in the heat of the moment.

4. Don't bring in past woes.
The past is the past, let it stay there. If you dwell on past occurrences, you'll never find a solution for the future your partner will feel less loved and respected, and you will always feel negatively towards your partner. People make mistakes. Give your partner the chance to recover from them, and encourage and support them when they make the right choices.

5. Learn to compromise.
If you can learn to compromise, you'll find yourself in fewer disagreements. If you don't like something, then agree with your partner to find some middle ground. This also applies the other way. Be willing to come up with alternative solutions for things your partner doesn't like as well!

6. Realize that no matter what you say, you both may not agree on the issue at hand.
An argument is typically started because you want someone to agree with you about something. You think that the other person must not know all the facts, so you begin to explain it to them. The more your partner still disagrees with you, the more upset you usually get. But, if you realize that sometimes it is best to just let yourselves agree to disagree, you'll show your partner that you not only respect their opinion, but respect their individuality as well. You never know, maybe later on they (or even you!) might change their mind.

7. Make a commitment to talk about the situation until it is handled.
It's far too easy to run off and avoid your partner, or give them the silent treatment. Instead, make a commitment right now to each other to respect each other enough to work it out, even if it takes all night. Nothing is unsolvable when you are working together to truly find a peaceful resolution.

8. Make your relationship with your partner your first concern when you are in the middle of a disagreement.
This does not mean bend over backwards for them or compromise your integrity. Just keep in mind that the person you are arguing with is your best friend, lover and soul mate. If you both keep that at the forefront of your mind in an argument, it will keep what matters most away from cruel words or intent, your heart!

不想再当爱情的傀儡, 那真的好累好累。 有时候也会相像儿童般无忧无虑。 总是依照着长辈安排好的路径, 无须担忧, 那该有多好。现在的我感觉好颓废, 像一艘舢板在大海茫茫, 找不到陆地靠岸的舢板, 舢板受伤了的时候, 想呐喊救命的时候,  哭得歇斯底里的时候, 身边也只是一波一波的花浪在聆听。想放弃的时候, 却没人愿意在旁伸出援手。 等到想努力的时候, 也只是自己再为自己努力争取一次呼吸的机会。迷茫的时候, 没有指南针朋友, 只有意志立敌人。